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Posted: Tue Oct 13th, 2009 04:28 am |
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Have been looking around for good therapists for I need one to help me get thru this time after my Mother passing.
I read this list by the dude from New York Jung Society which I will post later if I don't tonite:
It's also kinda a test for spirit too?
How might you experience this?
These examples will sound like self-help tips, but I don't mean them in that sense.
I'm mentioning them to try to convey the flavor of unconditional self love.
Enjoying a walk on a hilly road: feeling pleasure in your own muscles, feet, legs, heart and lungs.
Taking pleasure in having exercised enough previously so that your body can enjoy this challenge.
Sitting down to a pleasurable meal by yourself, with the newspaper, or with the sun on the table where you sit, or with flowers there for you to enjoy.
Taking the time to shop for some clothing for yourself. Choosing carefully to please yourself.
Laughing, playing, having fun.
Taking pleasure with other people, and feeling that you belong with them, so that you reaffirm each other.
Meeting a friend.
Sharing a meal with a group of people.
Looking at someone and sharing a genuine smile.
Feeling worthwhile, admirable.
Believing that what you offer others, is important, serves some valuable purpose in the world, that you make things better than they would otherwise be.
Standing aside and let someone else go first in a shop.
Writing a letter to the paper and it gets printed.
Cooking a meal for someone.
Creativity is a part of this too. Taking time to work on a creative project, something in which you express yourself: knitting, pottery, gardening, writing, painting. Trying to take time for this every day, even if only for half an hour. (I'll come back to creativity later.) : )
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Posted: Tue Oct 13th, 2009 01:47 pm |
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Hi Garden Queen.
I've seen south americans make a small out door shrine to their loved one. They fill it with some memorabilia, photo, gifts and wild flowers. I saw one while walking down a path through the woods. A little shrine dug at eye level into the side of an earth and clay wall that was cut to make the path, It was about 1.5' wide, high, and deep. Placed inside were the little gifts, flowers, and photograph. Maybe this is the external symbol of the loving expressive container we need of the difficult time like this.
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Posted: Tue Oct 13th, 2009 03:15 pm |
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Thank You Phil. I do thiink the Christian ceremony has become to Head oriented and about stiff upper lips..Oh Yes..she is in heaven now! Well, we still need our earthly feelings to flow and nothing wrong with a shrine...the catholics do have some good ritual and they are needed at times.
My daughter and I have the candles ..she has budhha I said I want a pic of Jesus please ....
I just cannot ever find any words to explain the pain of not being there for her in the end after taking care of her for nine and a half. I surely hope it was to have an imprint on my sisters who were not there for her except when they were forced.
I left my phone and probably not by accident.. I honestly like knowing I can rest without being awakened.
My grandaughter has strep so Now I don't have to watch e mails from my daughter to see if she is sick at school.
Oh I know I will get a phone...it is an incredible awareness to realize how it controls us..where iis it all the time ..where did I leave it...
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Posted: Tue Oct 13th, 2009 05:25 pm |
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Oh Garden Queen you know your mother loves you and doesn't want you to feel the need for forgiveness for anything. Go, cry out with all your tears and weep with all your heart and soul, let the Spirit move in you.
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